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It is day 2 after being laid off. Evening. And one of my favorite fantasies is beginning to erode as I continue to be “not caught up”!
I think mostly single parents probably have a lot of fantasies in common...that we´d have time for full-time lovers or partners...that being a stay at home parent (common vernacular) would mean an absence of piles around the house (material and digital)...that our exes would be cooperative (meaning either showing up for fully or getting the hell away, I mean convalesce cough cough, until they can stop barfing up their pain all over the furniture.)
Sigh. Are one of these your favorite? I so love my fantasies. My teachers always encourage me to look beneath them, though…for the root…the longing that is alive in them. No thanks. I like my safety dupe. Haha!
Itˋs ok women and men...adventure is here for us whether we feel excited or scared or “exscarded” if we want to adopt the new word that Walter is so proud to have coined with Maya last year. It feels so apt for application to our mostly single parenting adventures.
If you want to dig into fantasy work, check out Carl Jung or James Hollis for dream, fantasy ideas. The Erotic Mind, by Jack Morin. If you just want to have fantasies that´s great too! I´ve had many lovely ones and even found myself reading novels of this sort in recent years. Thank god I am becoming less serious as I age and can now enjoy dragons and magic and mistakes. I wonder why I want to catch up so much…I wonder why I think I’m not caught up…eek! The tension! The discovery!
